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Birth Mothers

Why Consider Adoption?

Few moments in life are more difficult and confusing than suddenly finding yourself unexpectedly pregnant.  Many women who find themselves in this position do not know all the options available to them.  

Expectant mothers usually think of two options: parenting the child or having an abortion. Although every mother wishes to parent the child, her present circumstances may make doing so very difficult.  Most parents will admit that being a parent is much more difficult than they ever imagined.  Raising children is very expensive, too, even for couples with high incomes and who can afford a stay-at-home parent. In fact, the U.S. Department of Agriculture estimates that a child born in 2015 will cost, on average, $233,610 to raise from birth just through age 17. Raising a child (or another child) is an incredible responsibility that isn’t for everyone at every stage of life.

Abortion, although perhaps a seemingly appropriate decision given the circumstances at the time, often causes a birth mother to feel tremendous guilt and anguish in the long-term. Many birth mothers, for religious, moral, or other reasons, do not even consider abortion to be an option.

Adoption, whether handled through an attorney or by an agency, can be a wonderful solution to what can be distressing problems. A birth mother can feel good about her decision to place the best interest of the child above her own; adoptive parents, unable to conceive a child biologically, are able to offer both love and a secure, happy home to the child they adopt; and the child gets loving parents, a good home, and opportunities he or she may not have otherwise had. Adoption can be a “win-win-win” solution to a bad situation. A birth mother who sets this process in motion by deciding to make an adoption plan for her child is a “hero” in every sense of the word!

Unfortunately, because of sensational news reports, movies, and TV shows, expectant moms often have negative impressions about adoption.  However, when they hear the “facts,” expectant moms are often surprised to learn that adoptions, when handled properly and legally, are overwhelmingly positive experiences.  Likewise, details about adoption – such as the home-study process adoptive parents must go through, and that adoptive parents, if she proceeds with an adoption, can help with living expenses for housing, food, clothing, utilities, and transportation for a certain period prior to and after the birth of the child – tend to dispel myths and give expectant moms comfort. Of course, adoptive families also pay the birth mother’s medical expenses, to the extent she does not have insurance or Medicaid; her legal expenses; and for counseling, if she wishes help to come to peace with her decision.

For more information 24/7, please contact:

Robert B. Kirsh, Adoption Attorney
Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.
(901) 791-4300
Text Only (601) 852-3678 (601-85-ADOPT)